Overcoming the Curse of Social Awkwardness

Ever felt so alone in a crowd that appears to be having the time of their lives ?

Welcome , to the club of Socially Awkward Beings. 

Being Socially Awkward is the last thing you want to be. The best thing about this negative trait is , it can be fixed easily , if recognized and one is interested to make amends . Often people get very defensive about themselves being reticent and cite various reasons that make others around them off putting. The reality is , those around us , who appear to not be socially awkward are putting up a well rehearsed drama of being comfortable in their own skin , brushing off their own insecurities. We , humans be default have the skill to be aware of our strengths and weaknesses and are also blessed to work on the weaknesses. The will , passion and intelligence to make amends on our shortcomings largely defines us being the alleged smart creatures we are.

So how does one fix this ?

Simple , surely there must be things that you don't like about yourself , or perhaps , haven't accepted about yourself. Make a list of them , be brutal. Don't sugar coat them . for eg , write down if you feel abashed about your protruding teeth , the way you laugh , your physique / figure , your complexion , your voice , your hair pattern or lack of awareness in popular subjects or peculiar taste in clothing or music - whatever be that you are not proud off .

First confront these demons and send them crashing to hell. Once you are clear of what is stopping you from letting your guard down and meeting fellow humans , there is no stopping.

The best thing here is , you have two choices. Once you have recognized these challenges in you , you can either muster the character to accept them or work on them and change them for the better. Either way , you get to move past it and you stop being so harsh on yourself. Now , when you become relieved off your personal judgments ,you get confident off the whole package you are . The entire you . However good , better and perfect others around you are , it will not intimidate you the slightest as you have confidence in you being you. Then all the social awkwardness goes off and you start mingling with people .

And , Most importantly !

Not everyone clicks. Not everyone accepts you . Don’t hang out with them or don’t expect them to. The thing is , there will be those people who are your people . They are the ones , who have themselves done this self exercise and are matured and inclusive off others. Be with those kind of people. In the process of selecting your people , you might get hurt , but it is totally worth it.

Don’t waste your life looking down on yourself , as people are waiting to see your face. The real you :)