Time changes everything . But certain things are beyond the tentacles of time, generation and eons . As humankind finds in itself novel ideas that shape the course of their life step by step, it leaves little room, or perhaps only for a keen eye to come up with what's new , to think what now. Everyone is exposed to everything, whether directly or indirectly, and information, knowledge finds its way into every person in a speed much different than how it used to be. The generations before, where certain aspects of life, where done with a hint of shyness and modicum of privacy preserved Disciplinary evolution. These days, privacy is put up in a duel against personal freedom and each person's definition of Decency is different, thanks to their own scripted definitions of Personal Freedom and Individual Choice Making abilities. Making a poor choice is seen as an expression of personal freedom and it becomes tough to coach someone if they take that stand. That being said, the ones that are in the growing phase of their life are most vulnerable, when new information reaches them, as with lack of mental preparedness, they may not know what is right in a situation and end up making wrong choices.
Our parents, lived in a world that had a time capsule of its own. Ritualistic events such as education, getting endowed with a Job, marriage, child bearing etc all were kind of monotonously going through a steady Time escalator of it's own. There was little haste, as the surety of things to happen seemed to pacify the raging future apprehensions about their dreams and joys. These days, it has changed so much that, kids under 5th grade have learnt to look at girls differently. Our ancestors and the people of yore managed to maintain an invisible layer of Disciplinary Decorum, where only the necessary information about the different things about life were slowly peeled as and when they approached the right age and stage. But nowadays, thanks to the round robin wrong choice making flustering ability of humankind, we become aware of other's poor choices , there by getting to know of something that we need not know at that stage. For eg, kids talking about wives, marriages; freshly bodily activated boys learning about porn websites ; young adults' obsessions about keeping their body happy though substance abuse etc . Even if by chance we manage to keep our eyes and ears clean and in the right place, somehow things reach our ears and the poor gullible mind, torments itself between trying to unhear the information it just got and the satisfy the adrenaline to do something about it in a desperate effort to experience what other's experienced. As parents, it is tough , very tough to understand what a child becomes aware off , as a child / young preteen might only talk as much . Hence , the only solution is to trust the gut instinct, backed by an intuition guided by a selfless parental love and an innate human intelligence, both the partners should understand the need to let their progeny know of what's to come and brace them.
Not every uninformed growing up soul ends up making wrong choices, but once they do, it might be too late as the nefarious whips of greedy lust would have started whipping the evolving Discerning power of the child. Things might be different for a Girl and a Boy, as girls by nature are few steps ahead , more poised and guided with more care when it comes to understanding what they go through. But for the boys who suddenly grow in all directions, someone needs to take the onus on them and guide them towards the information they need. What happens with their bodies, why its not exactly the best move to indulge in "self-love" , what is love, what is lust, how to be carry oneself, what can be expected, you know, have conversations that ease the incoming discomfort. I say discomfort because, its a shift from the ordinary, the usual. They realize they are becoming different mentally and physically and only under the careful guidance of someone who has been through it they can get a proper understanding of the current world that's presented to them. Parents need to be cognizant to come down from being simply parents to people who make an effort to see the world the way their young ones do. There is no standard formula of how to proceed with this talk. It is indeed sensitive, but you have to take persistent intelligent measures to make sure your ward understands good decision making even when they are left only with bad choices in front of them. They learn to tame their mind from being surprised and lured by the change of events. They become more comfortable in making the right choices, and not by force or pressure to be a Good person. Making right choices should be a natural choice, a choice made from comfortable sanity, not under the threat of not hurting parents, or being branded by society or from a feeling as though they are sacrificing the joys of life.
2021 is already a month old. Let us , as parents and elder siblings, encourage and invest our time and energy in shaping the minds of the young ones, so that the ideal society results from the ideal atmosphere we create in our homes. Let the rape cases reduce. Let the prostitution centers reduce. Let the red light areas diminish . Let the need for glamour and brazen dressing be regulated , let the need to appear attractive be destroyed and let the practice of being oneself comfortably be promoted without fear. Enough with sexual scandals and lusty scams . If we understand the fact that, it is up to us to make sure our nearest circle is clean and clear, you don't need to worry about how many nude beaches are around you, how many "zones" are around you , how many websites are being launched, how many products are being sold . Educate the growing ones about protection , about embracing their body culture in a legitimate manner and start lighting the matches of Gyan from each of our homes, so that the Society Shines from within as one single entity !
