The Silent Musical of the Stained Bed sheets [ Rated R ]

 

You guessed it right . As we climb the undefeated ladder of Aging , somewhere we think about this unprompted. 

Over the years, gaining trust and building the energy to love a person warrants different inputs for each person. A person who was starved for recognition might melt at their first genuine compliment from a person they care about. Someone , who had a tough time making ends meet will break when someone lends funds with no strings attached , because of their intimate awareness of the struggle to fill their wallets. Sometimes, the little hiccups dominate the many happy moments spent with a person . The fickle human mind chooses it's own selection of memories about the experiences you have with a person , and it is destiny that determines the course of relationship between the two people.

But what can you say about a person , who has no clue, who or what the other person is, and they have to be real sharp to start assessing the many layers of a person based on scarce inputs. On what premise can a man and a woman understand each other , when they meet for the first time , and the first window of meeting happens to be the bed. Read on, to see how we can explore this subject that will get us thinking and reevaluating our behavior towards women, relationships and life in general. 

Go-ahead, swallow that lump in your throat, because we are going to dive in to the silent caves that are honored more if there have been no breach, the cave that rolls out the red carpet acknowledging its very first visitor.  

It had been a long day, as the couple stood like living mannequins, smiling and gleaming at everyone who stopped to vomit the well rehearsed wishes they were memorizing to wish the newly married love birds. The sun hung it's time card as the moon slowly elevated up the clouds, setting the mood for the many hungry souls that were eagerly waiting for its arrival. In a way, the moon stands like a symbol of approval for engaging in some activities, without guilt, even as the bride shot a mischievous but anxious look at her guy . He was smiling by the face but simultaneously taming many random thoughts in his heart. The time was approaching , and while the whole world around them began to start thinking about their own plans for the night and the day that followed, the bride and groom shut the others out of their minds, trying to read each other's motives, motions and mannerisms, in a valiant effort to not be the one who dimmed the passionate glow that was about to be lit. It was a matter of time, when their minds , that already shut the world, commanded the hands to shut the locks on the door, as the much awaited privacy presented itself to them giving the silence they so ached for. The waves of emotions clashed against the rocks of intellect, as the man , tries to divert his thoughts away from the fear of not getting the red carpet welcome he was hoping for. 

There is no looking back, once the journey had begun , as once the train left the station, it has to go through its tracks , make the right stops  and arrive at the destination on time. Even as the driver steers the train through the dark tunnels hoping to not run over any straying animal, in a valiant effort to assure the passengers of a smooth journey. He doesn't stop, before the destination is reached, and he only gets to know if the journey was good, once the passengers leave the next day.

Virginity. The unspoken contract, that was left unsigned, for a reason. Too many signatures make any contract less special. But, an unsigned contract on the other hand, waits, for the right person to be OK with the terms and claim ownership, even as the contract was sealed with a signature of the red ink, when it was signed for the very first time.  Indeed, a woman's majesty can be deduced from many of her attributes, but this one, continues to assume hegemony over a long list of approved traits of a Quality woman. In a way, human conduct , the way it is now, has been prescribed by nature like this for a reason. If humans began to live like animals, one can reflect on how much torture the Earth has to undergo for the unrestricted expeditions of its inhabitants. No matter what the academic records & payslips speak, no matter how pretty or uninteresting physically a woman might be, one of the ultimate yardsticks of sizing up the authenticity, of a woman goes by her ability to not encourage visitors without a purpose. 

The Many Scenarios testing the Mettle of a Lady..

Young unadvised girls of charming age, unable to read their physical symptoms, give-in to luring wily temptations of the mind, in a hasty effort to get the experience, not realizing that, the time is not due. There are some, who, unfortunately, fail to read the person signing their contract, and end up losing their unsigned status after the damage has been done, when they realize the person was just there for reading the terms but not accepting the full contract. The painful failures of Love, wasted on the wrong person. There are some , who don't care about the color of ink, the intent of the person signing the contract, as they enjoy being scribbled all over with no meaningful purpose. There are occasions when intense physical activity might injure and cause injury. And there are those who were simply exploited by ruthless dimwits in the form of men, who by their absolute bad conduct, loss of sanity impose themselves on an unwilling woman. What can be even said on these women.  So, it all comes down to the honest affirmation of the lady herself on her status quo - not that she has to explain herself, but who else will ever know?  Why all this drama . Does it really matter ? How can it single-handedly supersede all the  other factors in determining the White flag Elite status of Womanhood? 

Simply put, it does matter.  Not everything needs to be an outcome of the tenets of religion ,spirituality or a line in a book. Some systems continue to be passed-on pearls of human wisdom, that need no explanation, but still continue to be relevant across ages. If anyone can do anything, the whole theory of 'survival of the fittest' fails. Why is someone stronger, some weaker,  some bright, some ignorant? Because, the evolution of the human species, comes by gaining and losing attributes as every batch of humanity wrestles with each other , rubbing against each other to get the shine at the end. If anyone can walk in and whip their will at a woman, the very fact that a woman is needed will eventually fail. It needs to be a goal with a prize. One needs to work to achieve it. Otherwise, all that is required is a pumpkin with a hole or a plastic filled with helium. Things earned through effort bear highest significance, as the human mind dismisses easily attained things of cheap value. Saving yourself for the one and only is like reserving one of the intimate aspects of yourself for the most appropriate occasion.  That choice is the sole responsibility of the lady.  Just like  a rainbow coming only after a sunlight after showers, repeat rainbows don't grab eyes,  lost innocence defeats the purpose of making a person feel special, if you yourself don't feel like reserving yourself for your partner, what else to say. On the same way, it is also mandate that every man owns up to his actions and not poach the elephant just because it alone has the tusks and he can make a fortune out of it. When animals that mate only for the purpose of survival ensure exclusivity, what's to say about the human race ? And when animals honor the code and boundaries of the female, is that not applicable for humans as well ?

            Maintaining Sanctity - A Joint Responsibility of Men & Women

Every time, a woman feels the pressure to loosen the latch on the door, she must be prepared for the wolves to enter. I am not hinting that, the wolves can continue to be who they are - they should be rightfully tamed and shown their place.  But the person owning something has the responsibility of protecting it, not the mindless thief because he is there just for the booty. Read that line in the right sense - even a mother crocodile guards her eggs against predators - it doesn't mean that the predators are justified, but it's simply the responsibility of the mother.   If, the lady behind doors first peeks through the window, to assess who is calling at her, whether they are here to really visit and stay or simply knock and run, the jewels in her locker will be safe. Being human doesn't just limit to the ability to show and receive love, but sometimes, it is the ability to control the flow, limit what goes in and out. From the way the recipients of her love see it, they feel prized, honored to have been hand picked for her.  

A rational woman might wonder, what am I to gain out of all this. If I can be happy, why not unabashedly experience at every chance.  The answer is simple. Only if the woman feels exclusive about herself, she can be available exclusively for her partner. It is not about who is making the sacrifice first, it is about,  why you are sacrificing and what you get in return. Biologically, the physical anatomy doesn't support beyond a limit, emotionally, the spark reduces if it sees no intelligent cause behind it, like how a person in coma feels when they are unclothed for a bed bath. They lose their sense of worth. But if one practices restraint, the silent musical continues, for as long the two minds involved in playing the music see an intelligent cause in their music. Otherwise, its just a lame circus,  like when a monkey dashes a coconut on ground with no glamour or reason. So, we need to be the judge of our own decisions. When the values are clear, decision making is easy. Some ethics are best said, when its implied and not entirely explicit.

This is a subtle wisdom that seeps through ages , from the well lived lives of much more fertile mothers ahead of us, who managed to head large families in a patriarchal society of the past. If a woman's feminine sanctity being explicitly pushed to be declared as a Dictum , a rule, the very fact that it is no longer an implicit ethic grosses out the subtlety involved in preserving it's significance. All this being said, as much a woman , the man needs to exercise ethics, conduct and manners as well , as it is highly unfair to put the full onus on the woman.  The bank might house millions, the thieves in first place should not exist, but if the bank keeps a revolving door, instead of an iron locked one, consequences are dire. It's a 2 way street. But, one must ponder, who incurs more damage - the bank or the thief ? So ladies, for as long as you can, guard your door . And for the Men, remember, every "visit" to the lady behind doors matters.  The Law of Destiny & Karma silently notes down your visits to see if anything has been done without the door being opened on its own. Just a matter of time, when you can no longer walk yourself to the door if you allowed yourself in against approval.  Cherish the red carpet if its gifted to you, and deserve it with all goodness in your being. 

To absolutely simplify , a lady needs to exercise deliberation before she invests herself with a man physically. A Man, likewise need to exercise due conduct before connecting with a lady with no hasty judgments on a lady's status quo. Mindless physical submission of a lady and unwanted abuse by a man on a lady are both unacceptable by all standards.  

Respect your bodies. Respect yourselves. 

B e  R e s p o n i s b l e !    B e  E x c l u s i v e !